By Fester:
New York is doing something absolutely unamazing today. They are engaging in comity on contracts with other states. Shocking as this happens every damn day when I send my credit card payment from Pennsylvania to the processing center in upstate New York which then transfers it to Delaware. Just because the check moves from a couple of states does not mean I can dodge the contract to repay. Comity --- a fundamental aspect of every day life is now a big deal because New York is respecting contracts of a class that it normally respects even if those contracts are sealed in other locations. The only difference is that these contracts are marriage contracts between same sex couples.
word came that New York Gov. David Paterson instructed state
agencies � including those governing insurance and health care � to
immediately change policies and regulations to recognize gay marriages.For
years, gay rights advocates have sought recognition for same-sex
marriages so couples could share family health care plans, receive tax
breaks by filing jointly, enjoy stronger adoption rights and inherit
property.Many or all of those rights would now appear to be
available to New Yorkers who legally wed same-sex partners in other
states and countries, according to the memo sent earlier this month
from the governor's counsel. Agencies have until June 30 to report back
to the counsel on how, specifically, the directive will change existing
state benefits and services for gay couples.
I would prefer a legislative resolution to this as executive actions can be overturned by a new executive but the inertia of generations is moving forward on this as people my age don't see what the big deal is as our friends find people that make them better people while laughing who happen to have the same damn bits and pieces as they do. I know this does not threaten my marriage to my amazing, intelligent and beautiful wife...
Another step on a long slog forward towards retrospectively asking what the hell the big deal was.
May I ask what your age is? Or ballpark? I ask because I have a theory about attitudes towards this issue.
ReplyDeleteI am 31. I feel much the same way you do. It's just not that big a deal. My theory is that by the time people like me are older and in more positions of power, this will become more and more a "non-issue." Hopefully, by the time I'm 70, we'll look back on all this with the same sense of disbelief that we do on the fact that white people and black people once couldn't marry.
My 10 year old son thought Martin Luther King Jr had lived like 100 years ago. He asked me "so you mean, black people were treated like that, not even that long ago?"
I'm hoping we'll have that type of "disconnect," in not too long.
My gay and lesbian friends that are in their 40s however, don't think this will ever, ever happen. I try to reassure them that they are wrong, even though, I'm not 100% sure that I am right :)